I’ve mentioned many times before that our perception of the world is crucial to how we feel. These feelings impact on our mental and physical health. Below are the main 5 things that can cause us problems. If you recognise any of them you certainly won’t be alone.
Most people when they are addressing their health concentrate on diet and exercise but forget about the importance of their mental health. Are your beliefs effecting your health?
1. Trying to be perfect
The world is an imperfect place and striving for perfection only leads to disappointment. Of course with hindsight we could always have done things better but to beat ourselves up over our imperfections only leads to frustration. It’s funny how we accept others doing their best but we must do things perfectly? Living with a drive to be perfect causes leads to a frustration than can be expressed mentally or physically.
2. Viewing the word negatively
If we view the world as a scary, unforgiving place filled with people who wish us harm us the fear will eat us up inside. It’s hardly surprising that many people feel this way as we are bombarded with bad news on the TV, Newspapers and internet about world disorder, crime and terrorism. Concentrating on the bad is reflected in how we feel and can damage our health.
3. People pleasing
We all know a people pleaser or maybe recognise it in ourselves. The problem is that drive to please and be recognised puts a huge amount of pressure on a person. Often the are saying yes when inside they are screaming no. This sets up tremendous discourse within a person.
4. Hiding from the past
We make decisions today using the experiences of the past. Leaving emotions unprocessed, boxing them up and ‘forgetting’ about them doesn’t mean that they are gone. They are still being used to make decisions now without us being aware. If you get overly upset by just talking about past events it can be an indicator of an unresolved issue. Of course losing someone takes time to recover from but if the raw emotion is a strong as if it happened yesterday years later, then it’s a sign that you haven’t been able to fully process that trauma.
5. Holding onto Anger
Holding onto anger can lead to heart disease and chronic illness as well as getting us into fights or making us say stupid things. If you have a quick temper or feel about to explode it can be a sign of repressed anger. Anger literally eats us up inside and taints the good in our lives.
I could have added more things that cause us internal discourse like guilt, shame, anxiety, stress etc but the above are the main things that can trigger mental and physical problems.
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Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) questionnaire
The ACE questionnaire was formulated in 1994 by Dr Robert Anda, a senior researcher in preventative medicine to determine the effects of childhood trauma on the health of adults. It was completed by 17,337 people and it concluded that the higher the score, the more chance there was of developing a health problem. The study has been repeated more recently with similar results. The questionnaire covers the first 18 years of life.
If you have been suffering from mental or physical health problems why not take the test to see if your childhood may have a bearing on your health. If you have a score shouldn’t you be addressing your past?
Click on the link below to fill in the questionnaire-
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“If I am feeling pain I must have a physiological injury, right?” “WRONG”
Nobody wants to hear their doctor say it’s “in their heads” because that goes against everything we are taught about pain and can seem like a bit of a brush off.
Most chronic pain is in fact psychosomatic. It can be induced through thoughts of anger, guilt or shame. These thoughts can be either known or hidden deep in the subconscious mind from past. In either case when the pain becomes the main focus of attention it intensifys.
The reason for the psychosomatic pain comes from ignoring the minds calling for the resolution of negative feelings. We don’t like to feel uncomfortable so we do anything rather than address them. Repressed anger is probably the biggest cause of chronic pain. We are taught that anger is socially unexceptable and something that should be kept to ourselves so we hold it in.
The truth is all of our emotions are positive because they inform us that something needs to be addressed. Depressed people, for example are much more likely to suffer from things like IBS, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia and autoimmune diseases.
Below are some indicators that your pain maybe psychosomatic.
1. Your doctor doesn’t understand your pain and says there is no medical reason for it to continue.
2. Your pain moves from one place to another.
3. Your injury never heals and the pain has gotten worse.
4. Your pain gets worse under stress or anxiety.
5. When you go to ‘x’ or when you do ‘y’ your pain goes away or worsens.
6. One day you woke up and it was just there
If your pain is psychosomatic medical treatments will only fail or give temporary relief and the pain will come back or move to another part of the body.
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All good parents want their children to grow up into confident, happy adults. Below are 5 tips that will help send them on their way.
We all use our past experiences to make decisions. Adults are more likely to make better decisions compared to children because they have more past experiences to draw from.
If a 4 year old child is trying to process something he or she only has 4 years worth of past life experience available to them. It is very likely that they will come to the wrong conclusions when faced with processing uncomfortable events or situations.
It is not the intensity of the experience that makes the event traumatic, it’s the beliefs that come from the experience that are important.
Here are some tips to help you keep your child grounded.
1. Children’s minds are like sponges, they see and hear everything. Many of my clients issues begin in childhood listening to arguments or facing frightening situations and coming to the wrong conclusions.
2. Watch what you say to them because young children take things literally! Children who grow with abuse believe that everything’s their fault, that they are stupid, that they don’t deserve to be happy, that they are not good enough etc etc
3. If your child experiences something uncomfortable talk to them afterwards about their feelings and explain anything that they didn’t understand in a language that they understand. Then they can then process that experience with the correct information.
4. Allow 10 minutes just before bedtime to talk about their day to allow them to talk about anything that may have happened during the day. Assure them that it’s ok to feel their feelings as feelings are there to tell them that something needs to be addressed. Many of my clients have held on to feelings of anger, fear, frustration, guilt or shame that have been suppressed for years from their childhoods.
5. Before they go to sleep tell them that you love them, tell them that they are wonderful, clever, beautiful and that they can do anything they set their minds on.
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How would you like to be a better version of you, free from anxiety, anger, fear, guilt, shame or whatever negative emotion you are holding on to?
Negative feelings stop you from enjoying your life and reaching your full potential. The majority of these feelings were either generated by bad experiences or placed upon you by adults when you were a child.
If you have unexplainable feelings of low self worth, feel helpless, have an urge to please, a drive for perfection in all that you do , jealous of others or just mad at the world there is something you can do. These beliefs and emotions are held ‘deep’ down in the psyche which is why talking about them hasn’t helped.
There is a way to reach deep down into the psyche and address these beliefs. It’s called hypnosis!
Hypnosis is a natural state of mind and ‘everyone’ was born with the ability to be hypnotised. Unfortunately peoples knowledge of hypnosis is usually tarnished by watching stage hypnosis. They worry that they will become mindless zombies powerless to resist the commands of the hypnotist. There is a difference, stage hypnosis is for entertainment purposes and Hypnotherapy is for relieving anxiety issues.
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Getting past a serious or chronic illness can seem like a daunting or even impossible task. When you are home alone with your thoughts, aches and pains the world can seem like a lonely place. Here are six tips that will help you with your symptoms and hasten healing.
1. Your environment should be as free as possible from stress causing factors. Anything that induces anxiety including newspapers, violent films, the news on TV and negative people is not conducive to healing. Surround yourself with positive people, watch comedies, play with your children or pets, whatever makes you smile. Tell people close to that you only want to talk about upbeat things whilst you are recovering. This may involve rather uncomfortable talks with close ones but they will understand if they want you to get well.
2. Take some control back by accepting responsibility for your recovery. Becoming involved in your healing is empowering, no one cares as much about you as you do.
3. Understand that your mind heavily influences the speed of your healing. Your thoughts are felt in your body. Negative thoughts activate stress associated hormones that weaken your immune system and slow down healing. Positive thoughts generate growth hormones that hasten healing and improve wellbeing.
4. Take more time to relax because the body only recovers when it’s relaxed. Learn to meditate, take up yoga or get a hypnotherapist to teach you self hypnosis. Listen to your body and don’t try to work through an illness, it will only worsen your syptoms.
5. Reflect on your past and see if it may be involved in getting you into this situation. Then plan for a different future that involves happiness and calm. In quiet moments close your eyes and imagine how you would look and how you would feel in detail in your new life free of illness and stress.
6. Ignore anyone, including doctors who tell you that you will have to just accept your fate. Your body has been healing you since you were born from colds, flu, viruses, broken bones, cuts, bruises even killing cancer cells. It knows what to do so trust it by supplying it with good nutrition, positive thoughts and a healing environment.
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The cells in our body receive information through our skin, the food that we ingest, the air that we breathe and from our perceptions of the environment.
Our reactions to the environment depend on the beliefs gained from our past experiences. We have all had different experiences in life which are why we think differently and have individual personalities. Depending on their perceptions some people find certain situations as scary, while others see them as exciting.
How does our environment effect us?
Our environment is constantly changing around us and we live life from one moment to the next. We can move from happy to sad or from daydreaming to alert almost instantly, our responses adjusting automatically to stimulus from the outside world. Thought changes to chemical and electrical signals that are passed quickly through the nervous system via neurotransmitters that instruct our organs and cells to respond. Happy thoughts release pleasurable endorphins like dopamine and serotonin whereas fear releases defence hormones like adrenaline and cortisol.
If we spend to long feeling fearful and anxious the hormones that are designed to protect us in the short term end up damaging our bodies with diseases like IBS, hypertension, heart disease and chronic illness. If we feel happy we feel great in our minds and body and we tend to be less prone to illness. This indicates that the mind and the body are connected. What we think is directly reflected in our health.
Western medicine has up until recently treated the mind and the body separately ignoring the effect of how we perceive our environment and our health. If you can make yourself ill by thought why can’t you make yourself well by reversing the process? This is a hard concept for many to grasp because we are taught that medicating is the only answer to physical healing. The evidence of mind based healing is there but it’s ignored.
What’s the science?
Your Autonomous nervous system, Endocrine system, immune system and neuropeptide systems communicate with the cells in the body and between themselves. They all respond to suggestions of the mind through the Limbic-hypothalamic system. Hypnotherapy communicates with the hypothalamus which is responsible for memory and acts as the central information exchange between mind and body.
Where does illness come from?
Quite often serious illness follows a trauma, a loss, a long period of stress or a life lived avoiding processing childhood abuse. The long livers in this world are usually happy, stress free individuals who love life and look for the good in the world, not highly stressed individuals.
This sounds well and good but how do we go about improving our health? Eat healthily, exercise regularly, look for the good in the world, relax more, process your past traumas and remove the negative things from your life.
Some of the above you can do yourself but if you need any help with anxiety, chronic illness and trauma resolution or if you want to find out how hypnotherapy can change your life give me a call on 07899886882 on contact me in the boxes below.
What you tell yourself determines your happiness!
Would you stay friends with someone who said you can’t do anything right, that you were useless, ugly, stupid and will never amount to anything? Of course you wouldn’t!
But these are the things that people tell themselves every day. They tell themselves so often that eventually their belief is that these things must be true. People say things to themselves that they would never dream of saying to others. It’s called self hypnosis!
I want you to think about what you tell yourself. Are you convincing yourself that you are worthless or can’t do something with your own negative self talk?
The thing that separates happy people from sad people is how they view themselves and the world where they live. These beliefs about the world come from past experience. In fact every decision we make in the now is based on past experiences. If you have had a fraught past then your beliefs could be tainted by these experiences. This will effect how you view yourself, your self talk and your current decision making.
If you recognise these traits and can’t seem to change them it is because they have become unconscious and outside of your conscious control.
Now the good news is unconscious activities can be influenced by hypnosis! Past beliefs can be altered by understanding and negative habits including bad self talk can be addressed. Unfortunately Hypnosis is very much misunderstood mainly due to stage hypnosis but it holds the key to the recovery from many mental health issues involving the unconscious mind.
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Do you feel let down by modern medicine?
Unfortunately medicine has its limits and many of you may have been told that there is nothing more that can be done. Diseases like fibromyalgia, multiple sclerosis and rheumatoid arthritis fall into the class of ‘chronic illness’s’ where modern medicine has reached an impasse.
Chronic illness doesn’t usually come from nowhere, its a culmination of lifelong experiences. Childhood trauma has a bearing on illness as does long term emotional repression, insecurity, anger, fear, guilt and shame. These very ‘important’ issues are usually ignored by modern medicine but many of you suffering from a chronic illness may recognise some of these.
Your mind has been programmed by your past experiences. Your past experiences are where you developed your beliefs. If you believed that you were unlovable, had to please everyone else or were useless, stupid or undeserving of happiness when you were young you will bring those beliefs into adulthood. These negative beliefs will fester and can cause illness later on in life.
If you recognise that you have been holding onto any of these negative emotions then you may just have the cause of your illness! If you have a cause you can work towards a resolution.
These negative programs cannot be removed by ‘just knowing’ because the beliefs gained from them are buried deep within the inner mind. They can be removed though using analytical Hypnotherapy and replaced with programs that promote health and recovery.
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